Sat up thinking of the qualities I want and need in a man.
This is by no means comprehensive and subject to change as I grow and develop as a person.
1. Self-Acceptance: Me liking you isn't going to be enough, I've discovered. You have to like you, too. I've been in relationships with two different men who didn't like who they were. One of them, at least, had the presence of mind to recognize his self-hatred, but didn't do anything about it. If you don't like who you are, you have three basic choices: Wallow in it and let it destroy you, change it(for better or worse) or accept it and learn to like yourself for who and what you are.
2. Kindness: I'm sick and tired of people who find other peoples problems funny or are so indifferent to the point of being callous. I'm not saying your heart should bleed for every fucking widow and orphan, but you need to realize that they are not that distant from you. If life were just a little different, you could be that person. And you still might be. Everyone affects everyone else, even on a microcosmic level. We're all connected.
3. Devotion and Attention: As a Leo, I have a lot of trouble playing second fiddle to ANYBODY. Sorry, but I expect to come first in your life. Period. If somebody else needs you, I can dig that, just let me know. But if this becomes a habit, I'm probably going to start questioning just how important I am to you. I also won't stand being taken for granted. You can tell me how much you love me all you want, but if you don't show and prove, it don't mean a thing. I want to see action as well as words.
4: Sensuality: Yes, this is a must. I view sex as art, and while I don't necessarily require that view point from my other half, you better damn well be capable of keeping up with me, if not surpassing me. Sex should not be something you feel you have to do to keep me happy, nor a chore to be performed. It should be something for both of our enjoyment and a means of expressing how u feel. Also, hugs should be liberally given and expected to be recieved. And foreplay is NOT optional.
5: Geekdom: Ok, I'll admit it. Hell, these days I'm proud of it. I'm a geek. I've been a video game junkie from a very young age, I like RPGs, I collect comic books, I'm into anime and science fiction. And you know what? I find those things sexy in a man. I find some geek in a man to be interesting and also tends to eliminate the attitude I see in a lot of men. Some humility isn't bad.
Idealistic, maybe. But it would be nice to meet a cute guy with those qualities.